Laid Off? Get a New Job Without Looking Like a Victim

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Wangari Maina here with another delightful serving of Esteemed talks.

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First off, thank you for all the feedback you have been giving. Today, I have taken the time to address an issue that has been raised by many listeners. How do you get a new job without looking like a victim of a layoff program?

If you are going for an interview, as part of your last-minute preparations and checks, please spare some 6 minutes to listen to the podcast ‘5 Interview hacks to get you noticed.’ Today’s podcast will be a plus in an interview and an even bigger bonus during that probation period. Most people don’t know that the probation period is part of the interview process.

So let’s get into it.

Stick to the facts

Especially for junior, mid and senior management level, always answer the questions about your layoff based on what was officially released by your former employer either to the public or through the internal memo or through the letter you received. The rumor mill in your former company and in the industry may have a more attractive, flowery version which may or may not be true. You need to remember that your interviewer or probation supervisor is not interested in what happened in your former employment. It is your loyalty or integrity under assessment. If you were laid off from an Accounting or Executive PA position, you may have sensitive information that shows the company lied about why they laid off people. It is not in your place, no matter how bitter or tempted you are, to release that information.

You were trusted and if you use it to try and get a new job, people will see without doubt that your loyalty has a price tag.

Dismantle the pain and betrayal traps

I make reference to this point in the mapping toolkit available on my website wangarimaina.com. If your name was not on the director’s list, there was every chance that you could be suspended, fired, or laid off to become a victim of a retrenchment process. Do not fall into the trap of talking from a place of pain, bitterness and betrayal. Why? For starters, it will make you sound like a jilted lover who still has hang ups and does not mind going back. Secondly, it will blind you from the opportunities that present themselves by you getting a job with the potential employer. Thirdly, during the probation period, if you secure a new job, you will find it hard to adjust to the different environment and culture. This will make your learning curve steeper than it should be.

Take a deep breathe every time the negative thoughts come and say, “my former employer, no matter how good they were, do not define my present nor dictate my future. It was good while it lasted and I have moved on. My future is mine to define with today’s choices – my choices. Not corporate choices”.

Sell your value

As far as it depends on you, keep the conversation in an interview or at probation fixed on you, your work and what you can deliver. The more you allow your interviewer to focus on the weaknesses and strengths of your former employer, the more your responses border on the defensive as well as passing the buck to those who had more powers than you did. Let’s be practical. You’ve been laid off as an accountant and the conversation is that layoffs are due to mismanagement of financial resources. Your potential employer asks whether you were privy to the related information and you answer honestly “yes”. The question that follows is, “what did you do to salvage the situation?”

The most obvious and common answer, “There was nothing I could do. I simply did my job which was highlight the anomalies if I cited them and my boss and the management were responsible for how it was handled.”

The problem with that answer is that it has traces of lack of ownership, resignation, a we-vs-them mentality, and a lackluster approach to work. Here is another answer, “Many organizations such as my former employer and I believe this esteemed company as well, have systems, processes and a working culture that allows its employees to be both efficient and effective.

Mismanagement of resources is not an overnight activity, as am sure you all appreciate. It is a progressive downward slide if left unchecked. My duties included weekly reports to my section head, monthly meeting with the department heads and beyond highlighting the problem, my approach included highlighting loopholes, their short-term effect and what the future looked like if nothing was done. I am on record in the company initiating continuous improvement ideas such as requiring receipts from field staff to support their claims and having agreements with hotels to host our field staff.

The ideas would be approved and effected but the people involved in the process of implementation failed to see them through so the uptake was too little too late. A chain is only as strong as its weakest link so it doesn’t matter how good a solution is if the community does not apply it for its own good.”

The frustration in this second answer is not toward a person but toward a culture. In the same answer is an indication that this person values the company and is willing to invest more into it in form of ideas. It’s also an answer indicating that this person takes time to learn the other parts of the business.

Do your homework

If someone is taking their time to interview you, normally it means that they are willing to employ someone. It may as well be you. So, you must know why they need to fill that position. Have they just implemented a new system that you are familiar with? Have they always had their eyes on you? Are they glad your former employer retrenched because now they can afford the laid off staff? Your potential employer, if they are from the same industry will be hiring you for any number of reasons including wanting the think tank that you carry and contributed to your former employer, their competitor.

If they are from outside the industry, it may be because they have a high opinion/ value attached to the staff of your former employer. Be smart. Just like where you are coming from, they also hold the power to fire you if you don’t serve the purpose for which they are hiring you.

Know your place

The previous point got us started on this. Do not let your being laid off intimidate you to become timid and exhibit enslavement tendencies. Do not begin thinking that your new employer is doing you a favor by giving you a job after being laid off. At the same time, do not go flaunting your new job to your former colleagues and employer as if to say, “who’s laughing now?”

Knowing your place is an important reminder for you to offer the value you guaranteed at the interview and for which your new employer will be paying. In my e-book, “From Employment to Business”, I highlight that humility and teachability are priceless, unseen pearls of success. Humility is about leaving your past successes in the past and building new ones while learning from others.

That’s it for this set of talks.

Thank you for taking the time to listen in today. For feedback and questions about this conversation, please send them to walkwithme@esteemedonline.com

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Transitioning Together

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Today, I speak on a subject very close to my heart. That’s because, after going through our transition phase together, my family life is stronger and more enriched. If you have a family, your transition phase is not yours alone. It will involve your spouse and children, if any. Allow me to share with you, some valuable lessons I have extracted from my own experience, not so long ago.

You are partners fighting a common enemy

Every transition has its demons and its angels. Demons operate and thrive through chaos and division resulting in painful words, actions, thoughts, and behavior. Angels safeguard. The battle is lost when you begin to see your partner as either of these two. When you see your partner as the source of all your pain and difficulty, you will never listen when he/ she is talking. When your partner is your angel, the day they drop the ball on you, even unintentionally, you will begin to evaluate them through the flawed lens of your pain and disappointment.

Either way, your venting when things are tough, will always be targeted at your partner; but when you recognize that your partner is a human being with flaws on one the one hand and value to offer on the other hand, you begin to see their strategic presence behind you because they have you covered in your weak areas.

Just like in the military circles, dissension between partners is a sure sign of defeat in the transition.

Be honest with your kids

This is really critical especially if you are coming from a high paying stable job into the more unpredictable world of business and self-employment. Kids know more and are smarter than we give them credit for. I remember for my husband and I, we got to a place where our first born was asking for the same things she was used to while we were working – pizza, KFC fries, holidays at exclusive places, visits to fun parks and the best we could tell her was “not today”. One day when we were out of milk, she cornered us while we were trying to budget the little we had in hand and she asked, “Mum, dad, why is it that we don’t have food to eat in the house?”

My husband and I looked at each other and realized that this was where we had never wanted to get to, with a sigh, I slowly began explaining the situation, what we were doing about it and how she could help. Today, she is our accountability partner asking us every day if we have achieved 50,000 dollars.

Trust me, if you want a relentless accountability person, look no further than your children.

Intimacy is neither currency nor a favor or gift item

Sexual intimacy increases oneness – physically, emotionally, spiritually (the sources of many soul ties). It’s also one of the commonly abused yet critical components of a successful transition. Yes, it’s difficult to get it on when you’ve both had an unfruitful day. Then the day turns into a week and into 21 days and then a month. Soon enough it becomes a case of “we don’t know where the rain started beating us.” Unfortunately, when some respond to the difficulty in transition phases, it is by converting that intimacy to currency by only offering it in exchange for something they want done or as a thank you.

When husband and wife neglect each other, it is not uncommon to hear statements like, “he doesn’t listen any more”, “you are never there for me”, “you would rather be out there with others” and to some extremes, ”I found someone who cares”. The pleasures of the marriage bed, I believe, are a freely God-given neutralizer of some of the acidity found in transition phases.

Be each other’s safe havens

Transitions are by nature very lonely. Close friends tend to disappear, you avoid extended family and the places you can run to for solace, understanding and celebration for the small wins are few and far between. In my own experience, it was only my husband who initially gave me the feedback I needed to know if I was still on track. While today there are many who give me feedback, he remains my only confidant. Your spouse not only needs to know, but must also experience you as the best choice for fanning dreams, an accountability partner, a shoulder to cry on, or a celebration partner to pop open the champagne bottle. Being each other’s safe havens is about honesty, trust and confidence. These are tenets that are built and sustained one day at a time.

Take stock and reorder your steps together

My husband and I have found a precious gem in stopping to take stock of our journey in life. Those moments are intentionally sought because with kids and business, every moment of every day is going to be occupied with something more important than spending time together, assessing where we are against our plans. It doesn’t have to be costly; (well, it’s great to have weekend retreats especially to exotic places, but when finances are lean, that option is off the table).

So we schedule to go for long walks and we end up on a bench with nothing but a note book, a pen and a bottle of water.

Taking stock allows you to reorder your steps. We tend to apply the Mapping Toolkit available on my website wangarimaina.com (it’s free to download by the way); and if you are reading the transcript of this podcast, then here is the direct link to the kit.

Re-ordering happens because of many reasons – including achieving your goals earlier than anticipated, experiences you have had, reallocation, of resources, failure of an idea and so much more.

That’s it for this set of talks. I have to stop there otherwise we will have a long, long talk.

Thank you for taking the time to listen in today. For feedback and questions about this conversation, please send them to walkwithme@esteemedonline.com

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3. Planning & Executing your Exit Strategy

Part 4: Tender your resignation

I wrote my resignation letter 5 years before I actually resigned. When my best friend wanted to quit his job (3 years before I quit) he used the letter I had drafted for my employer and all we did was change the names.

In the month preceding my resignation I stared at the letter every 6 hours to remind myself that I was not losing my mind.

The moment I handed it in and I was walking away from the Human Resources office I could swear there was a small girl’s skip in my step. Looking back, I wonder what was I so afraid of

What kept me from turning back while I was on my way to deliver the letter was one question, “If the roles were reversed and it was the company bringing me a dismissal letter, would they have as many sleepless nights?”

As we wind up this series, I would like to leave you with a two-in-one question that you must answer of and before it is asked.

What happens if your employer gives you a counter offer?

What is that one thing that will cause you to change your mind?

As with all the other lessons in this series:

  1. journal your review
  2. answer the questions as honestly as you can. (A fish bone style is highly recommended)
  3. share your answers with your confidant and/or take the bold step to send them to me for a free review and consultation.

And with that we have come to the end of the series.

It will be great to hear from you about your transition, so please leave a comment or send us your story and let us know how we have impacted you.

As a bonus tip for #accountabilitytoself don’t burn the bridges you have crossed to get to where you are today. The path of life is crazy enough to take you back on the same route and you will need relationships and resources that can only be accessed by the bridges you built.

 

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3. Planning & Executing your Exit Strategy

Part 3: Test the waters

Its time for the rubber to meet the road.

This is the place of decision that all those questions were leading to. Hence my advise to you to be honest with yourself.

Part 1 and Part 2 were about planning the exit strategy. Part 3 and Part 4 are about executing.

As a new mother, I was introduced to the process of bathing my newborn by my mother. She taught me two things. One, you always check the water in the basin with your elbow. The elbow is quite sensitive and it will help tell if the water is too hot or too cold or just right. Two, when you add water to cool the water further, you need to put your palm in and spread the water to make sure that the temperature is the same all over.

Elbow Test

For me to resign from my job, I did my Elbow Test for about 5 years. Translated to business, the Elbow Test is about gauging your readiness for the transition. Tabulated below are some of the ways you can apply the Elbow Test:

If you are going to another job If you are venturing into business
Put out feelers within and outside of the organization.

Remember the networks we talked about in the previous article, get to know what is happening in the industry. Who are the new entrants? What is the skill set that recruiters are looking for? What opportunities are opening up?

Update and refine your CV

In this highly competitive world of job cuts and fresh graduates getting high value jobs, you don’t sell who you have worked for more than you sell what you achieved for your employer and the mark you have made over the years.

Talk to some career experts

They know what is landing that big and job and what is not. They know if the industry is still attracted to your kind of CV or they are looking for something else.

Review the industry you want to go into

We’ve said it in a previous article. You don’t venture into a war unprepared. No matter how many years you have been in the industry, there are some things that you do not have a complete grip on. You have been a mechanic for 20 years, yes, but do you know the dynamics of clearing and forwarding to get the good spare parts on time to fix the car? Learn the business afresh

Put out feelers in your social networks and the industry

Let people know what freshness you are bringing into the industry, it might open doors that have been closed to you because you were employed.

 

Palm Test

This is work. Without a doubt. It’s about laying the foundation for your business or for the new job. The Palm Test can also be applied to your current situation is some of the following ways:

If you are going to another job If you are venturing into business
Go for interviews

Beyond talking to recruiters, secure a few interviews to see what is in the market. Be the interviewee and see what you have to say about yourself. On the other hand, if you can, be part of the interviewing panel for your organization if they are interviewing internally. It will enable you to know what other job seekers are going through and what you might face when going for your own interview.

Evaluate offers made against your life goals

Don’t take everything that is presented to you. Know your value and you will know what to take and what to leave behind.

Build your knowledge

With the technology expansion we have in this age, this does not have to be an expensive process. There are online course about everything, Sign up to teams like Coursera, Udemy, edX and many other. They have free courses and paid courses that you can choose from. Read widely, watch videos and programs that will fill you with new ideas and expand your imagination for the business you want to start

Moonlighting

Where possible, you can start your business alongside your job to build traction until it gets to a place where you cannot do the two together anymore.

Boot Strapping

Finance your business out of your salary for a little while to deal with the issue of capital. I love what Peter Thiel shares in his book Zero to One, that sometimes we think we need a humongous working prototype for us to hit the market. Sometimes it takes less than half of what we are thinking we need.

Please note that the two tests are an excerpt of a toolkit in our 12 week class on whether to resign or not which will be starting soon and you can pre-register via e-mail. For more details on the toolkit, please contact us with a brief explanation of your transition phase.

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3. Planning & Executing your Exit Strategy

Part 2: What will be your safety net?

No soldier ever goes to war without counting the cost. Similarly, no stunt master does his thing without back up. The truth is that for those people who lose their jobs without warning this is usually the pain point. That someone or something pushed them out of the plane without a parachute!

It is not in my place to tell you what your safety net should be or how big or how small, but it will be wisdom for me to show you some of the backup systems you can develop to ensure that when the moment of transition comes, you will be well equipped.

Financial instruments

Like bonds, savings and fixed deposit accounts, shares & stocks, etc.

From personal experience, financial instruments bring to life that quote that “the proof is in the pudding”. They are all sweet and attractive when they are being explained to you and when the papers are being signed, but the moment things start going south with your stable income, especially when it is your choice for you to leave employment, these instruments become a generator of tears and regret.

I would advise care when considering them as a fall back plan.

Professional & Social networks

Build bridges and make relationships matter more to you than material things. It is people who will be there for you and not the material stuff. As I highlighted in the e-book From Employment to Business, your networks will change when you are in transition. People are generally resistant to change and when they are forced to come face to face with it, they shy away until the ground under their feet stabilizes.

So, if you see transition coming your way, take time to make some social investments by building your own networks besides those sponsored by the company. Experience shows that those you initiate and sustain independent of your company will remain strong for you during your transition.

Subscriptions

This is about keeping yourself knowledgeable and up-to date with the industry news. Annual subscriptions supported by your salary are good and you can accumulate the information and digest it for your future. Subscriptions that are also making a difference in the current world have to do with joining membership sites that relate to what you are focused on.

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April: I Need To…. 

Ooh… C’mon, you must have had one of those moments (or you will have them this week) where you hit your forehead and mutter under your breathe, “I need to get my act together. Three full months into the new year and all I have to show for it is…. ” I’ll let you finish that statement.

Yes, there are many who are saying that and you maybe one of them. No one is judging you – except your worst critic-YOU!

On the other hand there are many who are ticking off their 2017 lists. Maybe not in the order they expected but they are nonetheless working on their goals.

April is that reality check month and it can leave you embittered and feeling like you can’t hack it OR it can get you to actually renew your resolve and working on some key issues/ goals.

If one of your key resolutions this year was for you to quit your job, or take the early retirement option but you still have the jitters, I encourage you to subscribe to this very blog because in the month of April, I  will be sharing on the big question – TO RESIGN OR NOT TO RESIGN.

I will also address some of the issues surrounding leaving employment to start a business or changing employers, including the big ‘F’ word – FEAR.

I recently carried out a poll on the blog about what holds back people and fear of change and lack of capital stood out quite significantly.

So hit the subscribe button and get the material that will point you in the right direction.

#accountabilitytoself There is nothing as precious as a correct map for the right journey in the hands of a wise man/ woman.